ADHD in your 40s and beyond isn’t the same as it used to be.
ADHD coaching for high-functioning women in midlife
Many women reach their 40s and realize the strategies that carried them through school, early careers, and family life have stopped working.
Responsibilities increase. Hormones shift. The margin that once held everything together disappears.
Suddenly, the same brain that helped you succeed starts creating constant friction.
My work focuses on identifying what’s draining your capacity and rebuilding the systems around your life so things become manageable again.
For capable midlife women with ADHD
who are done pretending everything is fine
and done living with how hard it feels.
You’re not looking for excuses.
You’re looking for solutions.
Hi, I’m Andrea Toole.
I’m an ADHD coach and educator who works with capable women in midlife whose lives look successful on the outside but feel harder to maintain behind the scenes.
Years ago, I found myself in a toxic work environment that made my ADHD worse.
Eventually the pressure caught up with me.
That experience forced me to step back and examine what was really happening.
That’s when I realized most ADHD advice focuses on surface strategies, while the real issues usually sit deeper in the structure of daily life.
So I created the PRIMED framework, a six-part approach that looks at the foundations that support your capacity: physical health, routine, intake, mental state, environment, and downtime.
Instead of forcing yourself into rigid productivity systems, we rebuild the structure around your life so your brain has the support it needs to function well.
Is this you?
You might recognize some of this:
Your life looks successful on paper, but it takes constant effort to maintain.
The systems that once worked for you no longer hold everything together.
You push through exhaustion because that’s how things get done.
You crave clarity and direction but feel stuck in overanalysis.
You know you’re capable of more, but something keeps draining your capacity.
You’ve hit a wall—burnout, decision fatigue, or feeling lost in your own life.
You’re tired of living in reaction mode.
You’re tired of trying to make things work and want a way forward that feels right.
If that sounds familiar, you’re in the right place.
Three ways to work with me
Some women want clarity around one specific challenge.
Others want to rebuild the systems behind their life and work.
Here are the three ways we can do that.
Get Your Shit Together deep dive
A private coaching experience for high-achieving ADHD women who are outwardly successful but are secretly unravelling.
Premium service.
You have your therapist, your personal trainer, your RMT, and me, your ADHD coach.
WILD Minds group coaching
Women In Leadership, Divergently
For women who want to be part of an expert-led community with a proven mind-body framework —so you're not just commiserating, you're actually changing. “
12-week intensive
For the women ready to make real changes and feel grounded and clear.
Work one-on-one with me to develop customized strategies to feel more ease as quickly as possible.
My ADHD coaching clients leave their first session feeling empowered to act immediately.
🗣️Client results
Via Carmen H -
“Andrea didn’t tell me what to do but rather gently guided me to finding the right path to meet my needs and goals.”
“What I learned about coaching and cannot stop raving about is it gives you increased awareness and knowing of yourself. If that’s not a massive win for all then I don’t know what is 😀”
— Dessy L
